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Looking at Marcy's comment on my last post, yeah, it's almost unreadable. But I'm trying to say something big without having to get into all the ins and outs that I talk about for work.
The point is that if you are what I call in one of the "higher modes" and others generally call "gifted", it can be hard to develop the deeply affirming relationships. You need someone who is like-minded for that.
This creates psychological stress.
The good news is that the brain is a lot more resilient than people used to think. Get some of what I call "Modal Recognition" and you can reclaim a lot of lost ground.
Marcy recently wrote about attempting to find a new psychotherapist in Northern Indiana, and talked about some judgments that she had about some of her previous therapists who didn't fit with her. (One of her old therapists, with whom she did good work, wrote a book with Warren Rule. I think this says a lot about her.)
I wrote a comment and she replied in a comment. This post examines my extended answers to her questions.
My comment:
It doesn’t have to be true, because there are always exceptions, but I think that having a therapist who is generally at least in your league, mental-process-wise, works better. You don’t want a therapist who cannot understand the cognitive processes that you use. Personality is important, but if they can’t understand what you are saying when you feel you are speaking plainly (and there are some real reasons why this happens that are no one’s "fault") it’s probably going to be a waste of your time. Degree is irrelevant to this, of course.
Does raise an issue, though. There’s a pretty good chance that you are mentally overwhelming the natives over there. (I say this as a Hoosier.) That can make social relations very difficult for the best of us. If you already feel uncomfortable with people, this can cause debilitating affective disorders. Therapy is of little value in this, except to help with coping skills. Personally, I’ve gotten to the point where I reckon it’s better to fix the broken leg rather than learn to cope with it. If the locals aren’t “getting” you, that could be a really nasty addition to the other stresses.
Marcy's reply:
We've been moved from the dark ages to Movable Type 4.x and I can already say that it sure is nice to live in modern times. This is a major improvement from where we were.
Of course, it also means that we will have lots of hiccups in the next few days as we sort out what the effects are on our templates. (There are several of us who blog at this bloghost under the old Process Write, Inc. site, may it rest in peace.)
If you notice anything strange, let me know through a comment.
I'm trying out MarsEdit from Red Sweater Software. It's an offline blogging tool for Mac OS X. (I'm tired of losing posts when my Firefox decides to freeze up.)
MacUpdate's Promo site had its massive second bundle, and it got me both buying and looking at different Mac apps. There is a good deal of decent shareware for Mac. I suppose that this is also true of Windows. But I really had moved to Linux, and the Linux community really isn't interested in supporting shareware. They like freeware, which is problematical since no one has an interest in creating something for a market, only for themselves.
I have to admit, MarsEdit is already wining my heart and mind. It lets me create links easier than my MT interface in Firefox. In fact, the MT GUI in FF is more or less broken. I wonder why I have put up with it for this long. Maybe I should upgrade over the holiday — not that I have any time off.
(On a related note: I always worry about giving value for the money paid. I've stopped worrying about that: I have to get some consulting for a project I'm currently on, and I'll burn through my monthly rate in less than three days with them. Actually, less than two.)
I've not been saying what I'm reading online lately. Of course, with my new life, it's hard to have the energy to read much. I'm going to ramble mindlessly on topics in which I have no expertise or knowledge. So just like always.
Today, let's spin through the blogsphere.